From "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" from John Gottman Principle 4- Let Your Partner Influence You "Jeremy has made his wife a partner in his decision making. He respects and honors his wife and her opinions and feelings. He understands that for his...
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Favorite Quotes From 80/80 Marriage
From "The 80-80 Marriage" by Nate Klemp. "Kaley swung around in her office chair. “I told you, it drives me nuts when you don’t put your shoes away. And it’s not my job to put away your crap.” One week in and the fight for fairness—the fight over who’s...
Principle 4- Falling Up.
"The Happiness Advantage" from Shawn Achor Principle 4- Falling Up. "Study after study shows that if we are able to conceive of a failure as an opportunity for growth, we are all the more likely to experience that growth. Conversely, if we conceive of a fall as the...
Principle 5- The Zorro Circle.
"The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor Principle 5- The Zorro Circle. "Feeling that we are in control, that we are masters of our own fate at work and at home, is one of the strongest drivers of both well-being and performance. Among students, greater feelings of...
Principle 2- The Fulcrum and the lever
"The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor Principle 2- The Fulcrum and the lever "Because our brain’s resources are limited, we are left with a choice: to use those finite resources to see only pain, negativity, stress, and uncertainty, or to use those resources to...
Principle 3- The Tetris Effect
"The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor Principle 3-The Tetris Effect "When these kids played Tetris for an extended period, they similarly became stuck with something clouding their vision—in this case, a cognitive pattern that caused them to involuntarily see...
Principle 6- The 20 Second Rule
"The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor Principle 6- The 20 Second Rule "Without action, knowledge is often meaningless. As Aristotle put it, to be excellent we cannot simply think or feel excellent, we must act excellently. Yet the action required to follow through...
Principle 7- Social Investment
"The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor Principle 7- Social Investment "At the time, I remember thinking that this was a particularly cruel trick. But years later, I’m impressed at how memorably the Fire Maze training instilled in me the lesson that is at the heart...