From Sonja Lyubomirky’s book “The How of Happiness” Why are we so poor at attaining happiness? "If permanently boosting our happiness is so attainable, so within reach, why, you might ask, are we so poor at it? Why do we try so often and fail? The prime reason, I...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" I'll be Happy When...I find the Right Job. "The heart of this chapter is about the happiness myth that stokes this crisis point—namely, that whatever happiness may have eluded you thus far will materialize after you...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" I'll be Happy When...I'm Married to the Right Person "As I describe below, even the happiest marriages cannot maintain their initial satisfaction level, and only with a great deal of energy and commitment can you...

From Sonja Lyubomirky’s book “The How of Happiness” What activities will actually make you happier? Nurture Social Relationships. "One of the strongest findings in the literature on happiness is that happy people have better relationships than do their less happy...

From Jonathan Haidt's "Happiness Hypothesis." What is Jonathan Haidt's Happiness Hypothesis? "people today devote themselves to the pursuit of goals that won’t make them happier, in the process neglecting the sort of inner growth and spiritual development that could...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" Are Materialistic People Happier? "materialists report less satisfaction and meaning in their lives, have emptier social relationships, are more insecure, and are less liked by others than people who are not...

From Elizabeth Dunn's "Happy Money" Most people tend do buy material things such as homes, cars, tv's, gadgets, shoes, bags, and jewelry, over experiences. Is this a good idea? Studies Show Buying Experiences Yield More Overall Happiness Than Buying Material Things....

From Elizabeth Dunn's "Happier Spending" Buying Time will make you Happier. Research shows that Time Affluence is a bigger predictor of Happiness than Material Affluence. "Many of us wish we had more free time to do more of what we love—for Liz, it’s working out; for...

From Elizabeth Dunn's "Happier Spending" Spending Money on Others Will Make You More Happy Than Spending Money on Yourself "Rather than think about the different ways you can spend your money on yourself to maximize your own happiness, consider investing it in others....

From Elizabeth Dunn's "Happier Spending" Humans Adapt to Almost Everything. To Maximize Gratitude and Overcome Adaptation, Make Things Scarce. "Abundance, it turns out, is the enemy of appreciation. Many of us are lucky enough to live in a society where chocolate is...

From Elizabeth Dunn's "Happier Spending" "you’ll get more happiness for your money by following a different principle: pay now, and consume later." (p. 80) Prepaying will make you happier because you will get great pleasure from the anticipation and fantasy of the...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" I'll Be Happy When I Find the Right Job. Is This a Myth? "at the root of this happiness myth is the misconception that, although we’re not happy now, we’ll surely be happy when we make partner at our firm, when we’re...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" People often spend money in ways that they think will make them really happy, but in reality it didn't really affect their overall happiness. What Are the Best Ways to Spend Money to Maximize Happiness? Spend Your...

From Sonja Lyubomirsky "The Myths of Happiness" 1, "A mountain of research has shown that materialism depletes happiness, threatens satisfaction with our relationships, harms the environment, renders us less friendly, likable, and empathetic, and makes us less likely...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" People often can't help but compare themselves to their peers or other people. When this happens beware because it will make you unhappy. Social Comparisons Are Toxic! "Much of the time, it’s impossible not to compare...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" Many people pick jobs or goals that don't make them happy. How do you pick the right job or goals? Goals and Jobs should be Intrinsic, Not Extrinsic. "It makes us unhappy—and less likely to succeed—when we are pursuing...

From Elizabeth Dunn's "Happy Money" Spending Money On Others is Better Than Spending it On Yourself. "Rather than think about the different ways you can spend your money on yourself to maximize your own happiness, consider investing it in others. Spending money on...

From Sonja Lubomirsky's book "Myths of Happiness" Will a Higher Income Make you Happier? Or is This a Myth? Once your income is enough to meet your basic needs (such as food, shelter, and health care), having a higher income will not have much effect on your overall...

From Jonathan Haidt's "Happiness Hypothesis." Who is Happier, Bob or Mary? "Try to imagine yourself changing places with either Bob or Mary." "Bob is thirty-five years old, single, white, attractive, and athletic. He earns $100,000 a year and lives in sunny Southern...

From Tal Ben Shahar's "Happier" Is There a Correlation Between Wealth and Happiness? "Studies have shown that the relationship between wealth and happiness is very different from what most of us would expect. In extensive cross-cultural and longitudinal studies of...

From Tal Ben Shahar's "Happier" Which Goals and Jobs Should I pick to be the Happiest? You Should Pick Goals That are Intrinsic. "I believe that goals are indispensable to a happy life—to be happy, we need to identify and pursue goals that are both pleasurable and...

From Tal Ben Shahar's "Happier" You Must Help Other People for a Happier Life. "Helping oneself and helping others are inextricably intertwined: the more we help others, the happier we become, and the happier we become, the more inclined we are to help others." (p....

From "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" from John Gottman Principle 1- Love Maps "To this day, I’m struck by the story of this couple. Here was an intellectually gifted man who didn’t even know the name of the family dog or how to find the back door! Of...

From "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" from John Gottman Here are the signs that can predict Divorce. First sign- The Harsh Start Up "Dara immediately becomes negative and accusatory. When Oliver broaches the subject of housework, she’s ready to be...

From "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" from John Gottman Intro to 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work. "in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have)...

From "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" from John Gottman Principle 4- Let Your Partner Influence You "Jeremy has made his wife a partner in his decision making. He respects and honors his wife and her opinions and feelings. He understands that for his...

  From "The 80-80 Marriage" by Nate Klemp.   "Kaley swung around in her office chair. “I told you, it drives me nuts when you don’t put your shoes away. And it’s not my job to put away your crap.” One week in and the fight for fairness—the fight over who’s...